Improve your mood by redefining happiness

‘Just look on the bright side’ ‘Put on your big girl pants’ ‘It’s not that bad, someone else has it much worse’ Many of us grow up with messages that sound similar to those above. Positivity isn’t inherently a bad thing, but toxic positivity can be detrimental to our mental health. If we are taught…

How to cultivate happy thoughts to improve your mood

Here’s a challenge for you: See if you can notice when your thoughts spiral into a string of negative thoughts. It might take some practice at first. The more mindful you become, the easier it becomes to notice your negative thoughts once they arrive. Once you’ve noticed it, challenge yourself to reframe those thoughts! Why?…

Does the blaming game steal your joy and happiness?

Are you someone who (too) easily takes the blame for things happening around you when in fact they are not always because of you? Do you often carry the weight of mistakes and failures of others on your shoulders and make it personal? If you identify yourself in the questions above, you might be engaging…

How a dose of optimism can improve your mood

Let’s face it- we have not had the easiest 2.5 years and just as we get through the Covid-19 pandemic (knock on wood!) we are faced with other crises impacting us all over the world! It is relatively easy to only focus on what is going wrong: How our world leaders are letting us down,…

What does Omega-3 do for your mood?

A diet filled with too many unhealthy, processed foods makes it hard for our bodies and our minds to function properly. It is no secret that what we eat has in impact not only on our physical body but also on our cognitive functioning. The body of knowledge around nutrition and what to eat feels…

Overcome overgeneralisation to improve your mood and view on life

Our thoughts have an important influence over our wellbeing.  There is an intricate link between our thoughts, emotions, and behaviour.  “”Some thoughts can feel easy to unpack and explore, while others feel complicated, confusing, and contradictory.” – Nikole Seele It is important to understand, that as people, we are hardwired for survival.  This means anticipating…

How sleep impacts your mood

Sleep plays a significant role in our functioning as humans. We need sleep. Without sleep, we will not be able to function. Sleep helps our body to recharge, reset and heal. Not only the quality, but the quantity of sleep is important and affects your mental health. Have you ever struggled to fall asleep, no…

The mind-reading trap

We live in a busy world and at times we navigate our lives using mental shortcuts. We can learn to use simple verbal or non-verbal cues to assume or work out what may be happening. At times these shortcuts can be useful but at times they distort our thinking. In cognitive behavioural therapy, we call…

Listen to create a connection

“We think we listen, but very rarely do we listen with real understanding, true empathy. Yet listening, of this very special kind, is one of the most potent forces for change that I know.”   Carl Rogers, Rogerian psychologist. Something that I remind my clients of is the idea that as human beings we ideally need…

Experiences create happiness

Experiences more than things create a sense of happiness. For centuries, consumerism sells the idea that you can find happiness when you buy a certain product or service. That you will be happy when offered the opportunity to buy whatever your heart desired. Is the secret to happiness owning more things? Or is it doing…