Does the blaming game steal your joy and happiness?

Are you someone who (too) easily takes the blame for things happening around you when in fact they are not always because of you? Do you often carry the weight of mistakes and failures of others on your shoulders and make it personal? If you identify yourself in the questions above, you might be engaging…

Overcome overgeneralisation to improve your mood and view on life

Our thoughts have an important influence over our wellbeing.  There is an intricate link between our thoughts, emotions, and behaviour.  “”Some thoughts can feel easy to unpack and explore, while others feel complicated, confusing, and contradictory.” – Nikole Seele It is important to understand, that as people, we are hardwired for survival.  This means anticipating…

The mind-reading trap

We live in a busy world and at times we navigate our lives using mental shortcuts. We can learn to use simple verbal or non-verbal cues to assume or work out what may be happening. At times these shortcuts can be useful but at times they distort our thinking. In cognitive behavioural therapy, we call…

Are ‘should’ and ‘must’ statements affecting your happiness?

According to McKay and Fanning (2016), “Reality hardly matters”. It’s rather the belief of reality that shapes our world. The way we think about events, and the judgments we ascribe, as a result, determines our reaction towards it and towards ourselves. One important cognitive distortion (or ‘thinking error’) that will be discussed in this article…